SIMPLICITY

Selma was already starting to dream about the friend gathering a week later. Years passed, everyone was thrown into a different life. She was very curious about the current situation of his friends. The pain she suffered due to the absence of his family in his childhood was her biggest wound, and she ached again. The humiliation she experienced at that time later affected everything from her choice of school, her choice of spouse, the internal order of her house, the school her child attended, and the neighborhood she lived in. Selma was not very aware of this. But she always tried to escape from there and tried to create a completely opposite world for herself...

She went to the dressing room in the 3-storey villa they had just settled in. She looked at the clothes, shoes, bags and accessories that covered the four walls... She looked like the people who are looking for something very important but cannot find it. She tried many outfits but none of them fit her. Finally, she went to that luxury boutique she always goes to and asked for new and stylish pieces for an important meeting and bought the ones she liked. She came home, she was very tired but it was worth it.

The awaited day had come. Selma was going to the meeting with her new and very stylish clothes and flashy accessories. She also went to the beauty center to take care of her hair, which had already ruined its natural state with hair dye. And to have her make-up done, without which she couldn’t bear to see herself.

However, we were already very beautiful in our simple, unspoiled state. When we changed our simple lives and moved on to fancier ones, we forgot these beauties.

She was finally ready for the big meeting. She entered the cafe where they would meet. No one had arrived yet. She placed her bag, which many people couldn’t even see on the display, on the table as if it were an ordinary thing. She had the keys to her luxury car and the latest model mobile phone...

Days of preparations, shopping, hairdresser appointments were all for this 3-hour coffee meeting.

While Selma was waiting for her friends at the table, she went back to the old days. Her childhood came to mind; her mother and grandmother raised Selma together... The front of their house and the garden were their playground. It was an old small private house with two rooms. Her friends lived in the new, multi-storey buildings in the surrounding area. All the children would gather in Selma's garden, as Selma had always dreamed of, in houses with central heating, where every room was warm, but since there was no playground... That garden was very enjoyable, with its water well, pergola, a pot of tea and a big plate of seeds. That one pot of tea was enough for everything, it seemed to take away the pain from tired shoulders…

At that time, everything was already enough. We had enough shoes, enough clothes, enough food, enough time, we could visit each other, ask how each other was doing, and share our old things with others. It was enough and it was already increasing.

After that, we started to fall short for some reason. The fact that we always want more, the fancier, the brandier, the bigger, the newer, the more fashionable... The fact that we get bored before we even remove the tags of what is at home... We get bored with our belongings, our homes, our spouses and, finally, with life...

• Really, when did we catch this disease of insufficiency?

• Do any of you remember? And how did it spread to the whole world?

• When did our cozy houses with 2 doors and wardrobes with 3 doors become not enough for us? 

• When did we move from wall to wall closets and then to dressing rooms...

Could there be an inverse proportion between quantity and impact in this life? In this life, did the effect decrease as the amount increased? 

Or was our ability to feel satisfied gradually decreasing? Are we thus entering into vicious circles?

Because we never had this many clothes, suits and shoes before. Everything was actually very simple. We couldn't access everything we wanted whenever we wanted. But we had not yet contracted the disease of insufficiency. That's why those simple houses, simple tables, simple lives were enough to made us happy.

We only had one pair of shoes, which we either inherited from our older sibling or the neighbor's children. Our mothers would usually knit our cardigans and hats, stitch by stitch. We would wait for days for it to be finished and we would use it for years.

Our tables were also simple. The cheese and olives on the table in the morning and the buttered bread on the stove were enough to satisfy people's stomachs and eyes...

Nowadays, people think that the more property they have, the richer they are. However, wealth is not about what we have, but about what we need. In the past, people had very simple lives, but their needs were few.

For this very reason, while we felt very rich in those simple lives, today we can feel very poor in such luxurious lives and have to work harder to achieve more.

But since people do not know the difference between a want and a need, they can think of their exaggerated desires as needs.

They think they need a huge villa when they only need a house.

Then, they can find themselves in a meaningless and complicated rush when they are looking for items to fill it and then people to clean it.

Whatever a person does in this life, they tend to do it more.

The more you consume, the more you consume, and the more you produce, the more you want to produce.

They can act as if they have nothing while their clothes with labels are in the closet. It can move the counters up and down, lower the shelves, and unload the hangers. So can they be truly happy?

When did we really catch this disease of insufficiency? 

When did our simple lives become fake with their fancy ones?

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Experiential Design Teaching (Deneyimsel Tasarım Öğretisi ) enables us to make our lives easier with consistent, applicable, understandable and useful information. With this information, people learn how to establish a better relationship with their family, friends and children, how to be happy with their spouse, how to communicate more effectively with their boss, colleague and customer.

"Since humanity came into being on earth,

His greatest friend and enemy has never changed.

The person in the mirror...

Discover what you can do alone!”

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